Growing up, I absorbed so much messaging about what would make me “whole” and “complete.” One of those things was finding "the one"—my soulmate. Because I felt so much loneliness in my childhood, I longed for someone to bring me the joy and connection I was yearning for.
So, in my adult years, I went searching for "the one," but what I discovered along the way left me feeling disillusioned. At the time, it felt like a huge setback, but looking back, I now realize how it was reshaping my beliefs in ways that would ultimately serve me in the long run.
I would become frustrated and disappointed when romantic relationships didn’t work out, feeling like I would never find love. What I didn’t realize at the time was that love was growing in my life—just not in the way I expected.
The Love I Wasn’t Seeing
I had never fully learned the art of vulnerability and emotional closeness in friendships. I was good at creating a safe space for others to open up, but ask me to do the same, and I would either avoid or run away. This created a distance between myself and others, becoming a barrier to the very connection I was yearning for.
I wanted someone I could trust, who would listen to me, respect me, challenge me, and accept me for who I was. I wanted closeness and connection. I wanted to be seen and known. And while I craved this deeply, I also feared it just as much.
Because of what I had been taught, I kept searching for this kind of love only in romantic relationships. But all the while, my friendships were slowly opening me up in a new way. What I was beginning to realize was that some of my soulmates were already in my life—right in front of me.
The Turning Point
One day, I looked around and saw that I had exactly what I had been searching for. I had built friendships that had become like family. And in one of the darkest and most difficult times of my life, those relationships held me and kept me afloat.
Through these connections, I learned what unconditional love truly felt like. And the most beautiful realization? I had created this for myself. This was what my younger self had longed for all along.
Going through such a difficult time forced me to break open and be vulnerable—it was the only way to survive it. My emotions and my needs overpowered the fear that had always held me back. And in this discomfort, I saw the power in true vulnerability.
I let myself be seen in ways I never had before, and instead of being rejected or abandoned, I was met with even deeper love and connection.
Expanding Into Self-Love
But eventually, I hit a wall. I realized that to go deeper, I would need to explore a love that only I could give myself—self-love.
For this, I turned to the angels, the Akashic Records, and my spirit guides. I allowed them to show me how they saw me, how much love they had for me. I let them hold me in their divine love until I could begin to do the same for myself.
And in learning to love myself, I found that I could open up to more love from others and give more love in return. Love wasn’t something to just chase, and it definitely wasn’t limited. It was something to cultivate and nurture within myself, share with others, and experience as limitless. These powerful lessons came from the angels and the spiritual healing work I did.
The Spiritual Wisdom of Relationships
Relationships of all kinds serve as spiritual teachers. Whether it’s family, friends, a partner, a mentor, or even a stranger, each connection has the potential to challenge us, expand us, and support our growth.
Some believe that certain soul connections are part of a greater spiritual plan—that we cross paths with specific people for a reason. These relationships may feel instantly familiar, push us toward healing, or help us release old wounds. Whether they last a lifetime or only a season, they play a role in our soul’s evolution.
While some soul connections feel like a homecoming, others challenge us in ways that spark deep transformation. Even the difficult ones serve a purpose, revealing patterns, encouraging self-awareness, and guiding us toward healing.
I believe one of the main reasons we are here is to grow as souls, and our relationships—romantic or otherwise—are one of the most powerful ways we do that.
A Soulmate Connection Beyond "The One"
Looking back, I see that my soul's journey didn’t begin with finding my wife. She is my romantic partner in this life, but the fullness of who I am and the love I experience has always been bigger than one person. My soul has connected with many others in transformative ways—friends, mentors, family, and even experiences that shaped me unexpectedly.
I now understand that I didn’t need to find “the one” to feel whole. I was already whole within myself. My relationship with my wife has added love and richness to my life, but it didn’t complete me. I had already been complete, nurtured by the deep soul connections I had with others.
These forms of love—platonic, familial, romantic—have all played a significant role in helping me grow and heal. The true gift of love is that it shows up in many forms, and each connection holds its unique power for transformation.
A Call to Reflection
Love is always present—it just might not look the way we once imagined. When we stop chasing love in one specific form, we open ourselves to the countless ways it already exists or could exist in our lives.
For anyone who feels they’re missing love in human form or finds it hard to love themselves, please know that love is always present and surrounding you. The angels, spirit guides, and loved ones in the spiritual realm are always there, offering their unwavering love and support, gently guiding you toward a deeper connection with yourself and the world around you.
Take a moment to reflect:
Where in your life does love already exist?
How have friendships, community, or self-love helped shape you?
What happens when you soften your expectations of love and let it unfold naturally?
Love is never a destination—it’s an ongoing commitment and an experience that evolves, grows, and takes different shapes throughout our lives.
If you're looking for deeper guidance in healing old wounds, embracing self-love, or shifting your beliefs about relationships, I’d love to support you. Through intuitive life coaching, Akashic Records, and spiritual guidance, I help people uncover the love and truth already within them. You can learn more about working with me here or book a session to explore what’s possible.
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